Lipstick Lesbians…Do They Really Exist?
June 12, 2007
You know what I have always wondered? Why are there never any pretty lesbians in every day life? You see them in the movies, porn, internet and any other fictional media outlet, but never, never in real life. Why is that? Do I just live in the wrong neck of the woods so to speak, or just never in the right place at the right time? In college I got see a lot of girl on girl interaction, but that was a bunch of sloppy drunk chicks slobbering all over each other. Not exactly lesbian candidates. Now before I get ahead of myself, I want to just make it known that two women making out, regardless of what they look like, doesn’t really set me off or anything, but if I had to choose, it is better than the alternatives. But seriously, where are the “so-called” lipstick lesbians?
A few weeks ago I ventured out to a place called New Hope, a predominantly gay area a bit north of where I live. But many straight men and women head up that way for the bars because it is a very cultured place to go and has a great night life. The problem we ran into, well not me because I am engaged, was it seemed to be gay pride weekend. The streets were tagged with rainbow flags, leather chaps, and butch hair cuts. Still, we maneuvered ourselves into a parking spot and into the brewery for a few laughs, drinks and an all around good time.
We didn’t know exactly how the scene would turn out. Will the bar be filled with gay men, women or a nice mix of both? Turns out, it was mostly women that looked like men. Which brings me back to my initial thought. Where are the lipstick lesbians? From my understanding they are attractive, feminine women that enjoy the company of attractive feminine women. Not the case that night. The room was filled with hair cuts similar to my own. Body types similar to my own and in some cases broader shoulders than my own. Why? Why can’t life imitate art? I would love just once, to see legitimate feminine lesbians, not just drunk college chicks making out.
End Rant
‘Lipstick lesbians’ was a term coined in the 90’s to describe more or less what you were looking for - straight feminine women who went as far as snogging each other in an era where it was a ‘fashionable’ thing to do in certain fashionable clubs. It really said more about what was ‘chic’ in the late 90’s than about sexuality. A notable example was a club called ‘vague’ in Leeds UK where ‘vague’ was a reference to it’s client’s sexuality. In reality it was a great marketing concept.
As for Lesbians in general, it’s not really my specialist subject but I’ll try to give a simple summary. In my experience, you can break down the ‘image’ thing into ‘diesel dyke’ and ‘femme’. The former being what you seemed to have experienced and the latter being what you were really looking for.
Both of these varieties exist in great abundance but I have to say that I have only really managed to establish 2 good personal relationships with those of the ‘femme’ persuasion. You see (again only in my experience) , the ‘Diesel Dyke’ fraternity actually seem to loathe gay men more than their straight counterparts.
So much for ‘gay pride’. Anyway, perhaps you should ask my cyber lesbian friend over at ‘Shazzerspeak’ (on my links). I’ve no idea which kind she is but I suspect she’s ‘femme’ judging on how nice and well rounded she is (personality not body!).
Have a great day!!
Leone xx
Leone, I greatly appreciate you clearing up all the foggy frustration of the lipstick lesbian. Now if only I can find a femme. I wonder where Nikita from La Femme Fatal went. She was pretty bangin’.